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Building Emotional Intelligence

When I first say Sarah, the beautiful 8-year old was hiding behind her mother. She appeared severely traumatized and only opened up when I assured her that this is not like school, there is no testing, just a chat to get to know each other. She was still very shy during the consultation and the answers to my questions pointed to a lot of stress during school, bullying and very low self-esteem.

It usually isn’t until after the one-week program, that children start to relax and regain their confidence. They need to assure themselves that they are clever and can achieve anything they want to.

Anxiety is one of the most common by-products of dyslexia – and one of the most damaging one.

Many dyslexic adults have been taking anti-depressants and medication to suppress their anxiety all their lives.

Parents ask how they can help their child, so I have attached this article:

Helping Children who are Anxious


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Emotional Regulation

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Emotional outburst are not just for 2-year olds. Tantrums are a part of older children and sometimes they point to deep rooted anxieties and stress, caused by an inability to learn, to express what’s inside or to feel understood.

Having a low threshold for frustration, being overwhelmed and confused is a big part of dyslexic individuals and parents can be at a loss on how to deal with the emotions that seem highly over-reactive to them.

Some of these tips might help:

Emotional Regulation for parenting


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Get into this Habit – the Habit of Reading

I have been following this blog for a while now and often find real gems there. This is one of them – as it falls right into my field of Dyslexia. Not only have I been into the habit of reading an hour a day for many years now, but I am also in the habit of helping people to master reading. Many adults I work with are good reader, yet not good in comprehending what they read. They need to re-read every text about three times to get the concept of what the text is all about. By upgrading the software of their mind they should only have to read everything once, make the entire text as sharp as a movie and not only comprehend, but also recall the content.

This Habit Will Put You in the Top 1% of Experts and Money-Makers

By Philip Pape

What if you could become an international expert and top earner with ONE habit for only ONE hour per day?

This one strategy changed everything for me.

I used to be a huge TV junkie. I still have a few favorites on Netflix that I turn to when I need a distraction.

But once I learned that doing this instead could make me more successful and open up tons of opportunities, I made the switch.

Before I get to that, check out these statistics:

  • What’s the message?25% of people have not read a book in the last year
  • 46% of adults score in the lowest two levels of literacy
  • Reading frequency declines after age eight

That most people don’t read. Half of adults are basically illiterate, and 1 out of 4 adults haven’t read a book in the last year. Here’s one more: “Reading one hour per day in your chosen field will make you an international expert in 7 years.”

In other words, reading leads toexpertise. And expertise leads tosuccess.

See where I’m going? The magic formula is to be among the very few adults who actually read. It’s no secret that if you read, you will learn.

But you can do even better. What if you commit to reading at least 1 hour every day? How about 1 book per week?

According to Brian Tracy:

“If you read only one book per month, that will put you into the top 1% of income earners in our society. But if you read one book per week, 50 books per year, that will make you one of the best educated, smartest, most capable and highest paid people in your field. Regular reading will transform your life completely.”

What have we learned so far?

  • Most people don’t read
  • If you read 1 hour per day, you can quickly become an expert
  • If you read 1 book per month, you can be in the top 1% of income earners
  • If you read 1 book per week, you can be one of the most successful people in the world

Simple, right?

You: “Great idea. But…I have no time to read one book every week!”

Ah, there’s that problem. The whole “not enough time” thing. I’ve found that if I know why I want to do X instead of Y, it makes X more important, which motivates me to do it.

Try this. Write down a list of 10 things you do every day that take up at least 30 minutes. For example:

  • Watching TV — 3 hours
  • Browsing the web — 1 hour
  • Using social media – 1 hour
  • Playing video games (or game apps) — 2 hours
  • Driving to get lunch or coffee (instead of making your own) — 1 hour

You’ll be surprised to discover that you probably have 3-6 hours of things you could easily do less of.

Then, imagine yourself 6 months from now as an expert in your field. Idle conversation won’t get you there. Watching TV won’t get you there.

But reading will get you there.

Successful German film director Werner Herzog said, “Those who read own the world, and those who watch television lose it.”

Now that you know that reading (X) is more valuable to you than your chosen time-waster (Y), take these steps TODAY to start reading more:

  1. Identify 1 hour every day where you can eliminate or reduce one of your time-wasting activities
  2. Create a daily “Read for 1 hour” calendar reminder that blocks off that hour
  3. Go to your bookshelf and find 4 books to start reading (or buy physical or ebooks online)
  4. Stack the books next to your favorite reading spot to make it really hard to ignore
  5. Move all of your digital devices AWAY from your reading spot
  6. Read every day for an hour
  7. BONUS STEP: Put a pen and notebook (waiter’s pad or Moleskine) on the stack of books so you can write down the hundreds of ideas you’ll get from reading

You: “OK, but what should I read?”

In his book The Choose Yourself Guide to Wealth, James Altucher (one of the most successful people out there) shares his daily reading formula. It’s a great place to start. Every day, read:

  • 10% of a nonfiction book to get ideas
  • 10% of an inspirational book
  • 10% of a high-quality fiction book
  • BONUS: Read a game-related book (or play a mental game like chess)

This should take you about an hour (or two if you’re feeling ambitious). If you do the math, that’s 30% of a book every day, or 1-2 books per week.

As for the specific books, here are some ideas:

  • Google the “favorite books” of your favorite successful people
  • Ask people you admire what they read
  • Follow your interests
  • I put together a list of resources if you want some more ideas

As Thomas Corley puts it in Rich Habits: “Successful people are slaves totheir good daily habits.”

Become a slave to your new reading habit. Then you’ll be smarter. That will make you an expert. Which leads to success.


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“Aphantasia” – not seeing images with your mind’s eye

Have you ever heard of the term ‘aphantasia’, from the Greek words ‘a’, meaning ‘without’, and ‘phantasia’, meaning the capacity to form images.  There are people who lack the ability to see with their mind’s eye. Read the interesting article in the Exeter Blog. I have had dyslexic clients like that, but more often than not they used to have a very vivid imagination and they either deliberately or ‘accidentally’ shut it down. By that I mean that often daydreaming is not an activity that is encouraged by teachers or parents and in some cases, it can cause a child to shut off these visuals or trips with their mind’s eye in order to comply or make others happy. But does it help them? Will it make their learning any easier?

I have found that most of them were able to get their images back, but it took some time and effort – which was well worth it – and they have gone forward in leaps and bounds because of it.

There are other clients whose images are so fast that they would say they cannot visualize, being unable to perceive their visuals at the speed they run… just another perspective – and I am sure there are many explanations and theories out there. Do you have one?

Please read this article:

Aphantasia